Dear Annie: My boyfriend is still talking to a woman he met on a dating app

Dear Anna: I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years now. He’s actually my ex-husband of 25 years, and we got back together about 16 months ago.

We don’t live together, but he’s made it clear to me that he wants to move in that direction and has even suggested that we should get married again.

But last March we had a huge fight and broke up for about three weeks. During our break he met a woman, “Rachel,” on a dating app and they went out to lunch a few times.

After my boyfriend and I got back together, he continued to meet up with Rachel to have coffee and walk on the beach near her house.

I told him I didn’t like the situation because they met on a dating app, even though he claims there’s no sexual or romantic interest between them. He says he just enjoys her company, that she’s a really “cool person,” and that they both have adult children and a lot in common.

We’ve had a few arguments about this and it’s causing tension. He says I “can’t have it all” because I have a few male friends too and he doesn’t see a problem with me having relationships with them. But my male friends have been in my life for decades and there’s never been anything sexual or romantic with any of them.

Plus he talks to Rachel every week and I only see my male friends once or twice a year. It’s just not nice and I don’t know how to deal with it. I’m afraid to even bring it up again because it makes him so upset.

I love reading your column and could really use some advice. I’m not naturally insecure, but this makes me really uncomfortable. Am I just petty and possessive? — Am I being petty?

Dear AIP:It’s completely understandable that you might feel uncomfortable when your boyfriend walks on the beach with a woman he met on a dating app.

It’s worth noting that he was even on dating apps when you were only three weeks apart. And it’s disturbing that he was so dismissive of your feelings on the matter.

You and your ex-partner have a long history together, which can make it difficult to clearly assess the situation.

I encourage you to step back from this relationship and reflect on what you feel deep in your soul and heart.