My boyfriend’s parents suggest I quit my job

I am 28 years old, I work as an office worker, and my boyfriend earns about 30 million VND from his job in the IT industry. After dating for over a year, we recently introduced each other to our families because we started thinking about marriage. His family, who are established businessmen, live in the big city where I also work. My family, who are farmers, live in the countryside 200 kilometers outside the city.

When my boyfriend visited my house, my parents said that they respected our relationship as long as we loved each other. They saw no flaws in it and treated it with respect and kindness.

Meanwhile, on my first visit to his family’s home, I felt somewhat intimidated by their wealth, which made me more reserved than usual. Subsequent visits made me feel more comfortable, but his parents questioned me at length about my background and seemed to look down on it somewhat, even though they accepted it because their son cared for me.

They also discussed my salary and suggested that if we got married, I would prefer to stay home and look after the children. They cited the superiority of maternity care over external care, especially considering the relatively low earnings.

My boyfriend agrees with his parents’ perspective, arguing that my job pays me little and that raising the kids will take me more time. He assures me of financial security by emphasizing that his parents own the house and suggests transferring money to me for personal expenses to simplify our lives.

Despite their plans, I prefer to continue working and managing my own finances. The economic and social differences between our families, combined with his family’s disregard for my rural upbringing, fill me with doubt and uncertainty about our future together.

What should I do?