Tradwife criticized by ‘sensitive’ community for Halloween video (exclusive)

For 11 months of the year Alexia Delarosa does not actively separate himself from “trade wife» online community. Typically, the viral housewife shares an audience with her fellow housewives, social media stars who also cook elaborate recipes from scratch, homeschool their children and dress in puffy sleeves and floral skirts.

Not all Trudgens give their videos the same comic edge that caught Delarosa (648,000 views). Instagram followers, but her playfulness sets her apart; it doesn’t throw her out of the tradwife world.

However, in October the situation is different. Delarosa, 31 years old, loves It’s Halloween and her content proves her passion all month long. She posts a video of her jewelry: “Let’s chase the coop” she captioned the video as she hung witches’ hats from the wooden ceiling of her herd and stretched faux spider webs over the barred windows.

She also shares themed dishes that she cooks and bakes throughout the season, such as:spooky halloween breakfast“—chocolate-covered spider web pancakes she made for her sons Archie, 4, and Arlo, 2, in a video posted Oct. 7.

It’s not that Delarosa decides to separate herself from the other traditional wives when October arrives. In fact, she tells PEOPLE, it’s the opposite.

“Most of my audience is the tradwife community, people who have Christian values,” Delarosa says. “There’s definitely a percentage of people who say, ‘No Halloween. This is evil, this is Satan. Why would you advertise this?” It’s a small percentage, but it’s definitely there.”

It is not surprising that the content of Halloween does not correspond to the more formal concept of “trading wife”, since the lifestyle is usually based on religious principles. But Delarosa believes her seasonal surge in creepier content is still largely in the domestic realm. All things considered, this isn’t so much a break from her regular job as it is a month-long break from the tradwife community.

“October is the only month I don’t really like,” says the San Diego parent. “The rest of the year, of course, because it’s Christmas, it’s homeschooling, being a stay-at-home mom—very general things that trade wives value.”

From November to September, Delarosa hosts a community of women traders. She told PEOPLE this summer that she has friends who live traditional lifestyles, and while she doesn’t share every aspect of the trend, she does not reject the shortcut.

If Halloween sets her apart from her viral peers for 31 days, it won’t be a blow to her online success. In any case, this is an incentive.

“Engagement is definitely higher with Halloween-themed content,” says Delarosa. “I just tend to post this content as often as possible because I know people really enjoy it and I find it really fun to make videos like this. And I think that’s also fuel for people who don’t. Commenting on these Halloween videos helps too.”

And Delarosa understands why some social media users are turned off by “gory” or “violent” Halloween content. She appreciates the creativity that some writers put into their extravagant, albeit dark, content, but Delarosa personally says she tries not to cross that line. The closest thing she can get to sinister is her appreciation for witches, such as when she created midnight margarita cocktail inspired by your favorite 1998 movie Practical magic.

“As far as Halloween content goes, I’m pretty light-hearted about it… It’s not a scary Halloween. It’s more of a creepy Disney vibe that a child will love,” she explains. “When an adult says, ‘No,’ I say, ‘Okay, my kids aren’t afraid of the skeleton sitting at our kitchen table.’

Even if Delarosa’s Halloween Videos and TikTok stray from traditional life, she doesn’t completely abandon the philosophy of her performance. With the exception of a few purchased items, she continues to make everything DIY and makes her own children’s Halloween costumes.

This year, she says she wants to create pumpkin ensembles for the whole family, adding them to the growing list of things she makes from scratch, like baked cereal And honey collected from live bees. She once even made my own newspaper in a video that has 8.5 million views on Instagram.

Delarosa admits that “everyone has different boundaries” with Halloween, whether it’s simply a preference for light-hearted content like her own or a complete rejection of anything otherworldly. But if she didn’t know about this fact, she probably would have, since most of her disgruntled viewers have no problem telling her they’re upset and unfollowing.

“Every time, every year, when I start posting Halloween content, I inevitably get messages from people like, ‘I’m going to have to unfollow you. I didn’t realize you supported this holiday. Our values ​​are not aligned,” the content creator tells her more active trading audience.

She explains that negative reactions usually do not have malicious or harmful intentions.

“They don’t hate me because at some point they followed me. So they’re like, “I usually like your content, but I don’t like the darker stuff. I get dark vibes from your content.” “,” says Delarosa. “It’s very sensitive.”

It’s not like she resisted or tried to convince anyone to stay on her page. “But I don’t know why my feelings for him are so deep. We may like different things, and that’s okay,” adds the California-based creator. “If this is the straw that broke the camel’s back, maybe you didn’t really like me to begin with.”

However, Delarosa says she doesn’t dive that deep into Halloween just to go viral. Creating fun themed content is fun, but making it special for your sons is especially important for a mom who fondly remembers such holidays from her childhood.

“I remember being little and loving it when my parents decorated for the holidays. That made the season so special,” she recalls to PEOPLE. “I think that’s why I love creating these memories for my kids now and letting them enjoy the whole month of October because there’s something new hanging in the house.”